After all these yearsthe old gender double standard is still very much with us . And that is pretty pathetic. But I think the real problem is that we haven't yet come up with a consistent paradigm to replace it. There are real gender-related differences in behavior. We need to honor those without placing an excessive emphasis on them. This is more difficult and nuanced than the old, straight-forward double standard and as thinkers we are more comfortable being lazy. We need a reasonably simple replacement framework that includes limits to gender-oriented generalizations.